Aromanticism - Writing For Life

How to Write Asexual & Aromantic Characters

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Hi all! A few years ago I was a panelist at the Scribes and Scribblers Convention, on how to write asexual and aromantic characters. I decided to rework my slides into a written guide for […]

Labels: Helpful or Hurtful?

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A conversation topic that I’ve seen come up a lot, both in the context of asexuality/aromanticism with their stacks of microlabels and autism where there’s the question of “should I tell this person they probably […]

Sounds Fake But Okay Book Review

I just read Kayla Kaszyca and Sarah Costello’s Sounds Fake But Okay: An Asexual and Aromantic Perspective on Love, Relationships, Sex, and Pretty Much Anything Else over the weekend, and wanted to share my thoughts […]

We Need More Focus on Aromanticism

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This month’s Carnival of Aros has the theme “Being aromantic in an allonormative world,” which got me thinking about some facts I discovered about aromantic representation compared to asexual representation when I was doing my […]

Thoughts on the Word “Normal”

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This has come up frequently in the comments but I had yet to make a proper post about it for some reason, so I’m remedying that now: I have problems with the word “normal” in […]

Carnival of Aces February Round-Up

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Aannddd we’re back with the Carnival of Aces, this time with the round-up of submissions! (You can view the original call for submissions HERE). Thanks to everyone who submitted this month!(Also my apologies to everyone […]

(CoA Guest Submission, by Rachel) Laotong as QPRs: An Aro Ace Analysis of Snow Flower and the Secret Fan

This is a Carnival of Aces submission by the same author as the previous post/submission. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I was around 15 or so, a sophomore in high school, when I read Snow Flower and the Secret […]

CoA Guest Submission: We Need Aro and Ace Kids’ Books

Hey all! This is a Carnival of Aces submission I was asked to post for someone who doesn’t have their own blog and wanted to remain anonymous. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I am a children’s librarian. I am […]

Call for Submissions: February Carnival of Aces

Hi all! This month, I’m the host for February’s Carnival of Aces. From the Asexual Agenda: “A Carnival of Aces is a monthly blogging carnival centered on the asexual spectrum (asexuals, gray-As, demisexuals, etc.). Anyone […]

Why Everyone Can Benefit From the Aspec Perspective

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A lot of people see being asexual and/or aromantic as sad, or something to be pitied or fixed. In reality though, the kinds of things we question and discuss regarding social expectations actually benefit everyone, […]